For many folks it’s time for New Years Resolutions. I don’t really make them – my reflection is more tied to the Jewish holiday of Yom Kippur – but the lists of suggestions abound. In a year that for me was colored by ups and downs, wild mood swings, and tremendous personal growth, I’m tired of infighting, blame games, and finger pointing – I just want to get back to work on building a world that works for me. And in this vein, Queerty has 10 smart suggestions for the Gay Community, that we can really all take to heart. Two I particularly dig after the jump.
Remember that it’s not all about you.
Just as the fight for LGBT rights doesn’t boil down to overturning a gay marriage ban in California, there’s more to equality and fairness than just the needs of gays and lesbians. You can practice your politics in whatever way you choose, but if you support full and equal protection for gays and lesbians, you owe it to yourself and your fellow citizens to looks at the many other gross inequalities around the globe and do something about them as well. It’s easy to be self-serving, but if you expect straight people to care about you, you should try caring about something that doesn’t directly effect you as well. And don’t just empathize, do something tangible.
You can have your cake *ahem* and eat it, too.
Finally, let’s resolve to be diverse. The argument over whether we should be “mainstream” or “radical” is tedious. We can be both. We can be Democrat and Republican. We can forcefully advocate change through civil disobedience while also working within the system for change. Of all the groups of people in the world, it seems that ours has the greatest capacity for being able to hold two ideas in our head at the same time. We’re a better, stronger and more interesting community when we are both the loud-mouthed flamboyant hairdresser and the buttoned-down country club preppy. We wouldn’t be fabulous if we all did it in the exact same way. It’s a big community and no one single person or group gets to own it. That’s why we all own it.