This post is part of the Other Mother’s Freedom to Marry Blog Carnival!
I had a hard time thinking of my blue post. I thought my something blue could be my toenails, now polished a lovely navy; I thought it could be me, saddened because we don’t all have the right to define our relationships as we would like. Ellison suggested it could refer to untreated depression in same-sex partners who don’t have access to mental health services because they are disproportionately uninsured…but she’s a little wonkier than this blog.
But then I got to thinking about the election, and how much of our population lives in blue states (this is a US map where the sizes of states are adjusted by population). And how we now have a Democratic President who used to support full marriage equality. And I just started getting upset – more red than blue – about what’s taking so darn long.
I’ve been involved in this fight for 12 years now, and it feels like forever.
But then I take a deep breath and I remember that real change goes slowly, that really changing hearts and minds is tedious and time consuming work, and that it has long term impact. So my something blue is a calm commitment to keep having the difficult conversations, embracing the teachable moments, gritting my teeth and grinning in the face of homophobia and heterosexism, and giving some GREEN to keep the work going. I’m so inspired with all the posts I’ve been reading, and clearer than ever that the impact of marriage discrimination goes far beyond same-sex couples who want to get married. So let’s keep working together, keep laughing and crying and holding on, and keep our eyes on the prize: Equality.